Although some people can have few others that they may be able to rely upon, there comes a time when they feel they need a confidante, or an independent viewpoint to help them see a way forward in life.
It may seem difficult to understand in some respects, but when this situation occurs in life, it could be that the last thing they need is someone else. Although an independent viewpoint can help, the individual concerned must still end up making up their own mind anyway in the end. On this basis they do not need someone to understand their position, the lost soul in this instance, needs to get to the point where they understand themselves and the position they are currently at, on their own life path. External involvement could actually cloud judgement and delay self enlightenment, unless of course the external listener is a counsellor and therefore trained to help in such matters.
The person facing their life dilemmas, must learn to gather their thoughts and still their mind (through quiet contemplation or meditation) and, in so doing, raise their awareness to a higher level of consciousness in order to establish how they feel within themselves, what their position in life is, and compare this with the feelings they should like to have and the position they should like to be in. Once this understanding is realised, then and only then, will they be able to correct their course and get on the life path that is best for them.
They must concentrate on all the positive aspects and try to maintain them, bearing in mind that there may still need to be some adjustment to the extent of this, as finding a life balance often requires compromise. The compromises will be even greater if a partner or dependents are also involved.
When considering the negative aspects of their lives and what they should like to change for the better, there must sometimes be ruthless change. Often a new start may be necessary and this could affect others around the person, however once understanding of the change that is necessary has been achieved, then it is the persons responsibility to themselves (and those around them) and their own happiness, to make it happen!
There then, lies the formula for true balance and whilst an external source may be able to aid this process, the answers are far better coming from within and as a consequence of a persons deeper understanding of their own necessities in life.
A consequence of bringing about change for the better, may lead to a period of isolation and possibly result in a feeling of loneliness and self-doubt, especially if it means ending a relationship(s). This again is an often necessary phase in the human life cycle, for a person to go through, when re-balancing their position to meet what will be the right emotional and physical path of existence that is right for them. Change whilst difficult and painful, is necessary and often unavoidable, when a person is seeking to adjust their lives to meet their needs and expectations in life.
The question the individual must overcome when taking all of the above into consideration is, will the change(s) involved (even if implemented incrementally rather than all at once), justify all the pain and hard emotion that is necessary to bring the improvements about that are needed?
One thing that is certain, is that if the individual concerned is indeed unhappy with their current position in life, the situation is very unlikely to improve itself and any lifetime has only a finite period. Therefore every minute of life that should bring enjoyment and enrichment is wasted if it does not do this!
Hopefully, these few reflections can help those reading this philosophy. If you, or someone you know, faces the situation described above, then bear this point in mind; life is a journey, and requires as much attention to detail as any ocean going navigation!
There is sometimes a minor adjustment to the rudder to steer the right course, which should be manageable through the normal routines of daily life and these may be quite imperceptible. Then don’t forget the maintenance periods, where a break and refreshment is necessary in the form of holidays or getting away from it all. Other times, storms may well-up just as natural traumas and dramas do in life, this may require a pull in to port or resting up period, until such storms have passed. Then there are those occurrences that require drastic or evasive action if the ship is not to be sunk. In life these realisations or ‘wake-up calls’ may require a total change in direction, if there are rocks ahead however, one still has freedom of choice, be it a slow navigation through them or to circumvent them altogether.
These then are reflections on the path ahead. Plot your course well and make adjustments as necessary.
Love and Peace.